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Wednesday, January 18

为什么你不回中国?


前几天在学校车站跟友族朋友相遇,聊起了我在中国杭州实习的事情。
突然间,某位朋友提出了一句让我很傻眼的问题,

“为什么你不回中国?”

我呆了三秒,然后回答他:“因为我是马来西亚人。”
我知道他并没有挑衅的意味(席间大家是相谈甚欢的),也许一切都是建立于好奇之上。
但是或许我敏感,这个问题确确实实触动了我的神经。
我不断地在想,他是基于什么样的思维之下问出这个问题的?

祖辈从中国移民过来至此已经是第三代了,我身份证上的国籍也标明着是马来西亚。
为什么我要回中国??
“回中国”中的“回”这个字眼儿很有问题。
排除了挑衅的意味,个人觉得他潜意里头,不自觉地认为我是属于中国的。
倘若他觉得我是属于大马的,那自然而然使用的字眼儿应该是“为什么不去中国”,而不是“为什么不回中国”。

我希望他是口误用错了词儿。
不然的话,这种潜意识里头觉得他族不归属于这片土地的思维真的可怕。
它可以寄居在一位大学生的身体里面,同样也会出现在他人身上。
我从来不问马来人为什么不回爪哇岛,也不会问印度人为什么不回印度去,因为我打从心底认为大家是同属这片土地的。
究竟是什么人事物,让他产生了这种想法?我不得而知。

Saturday, December 31

一个孩子的无声抗议


无论你对同志,搞基有多么深的偏见,不妨先把这些成见暂时放下,看看这一个片段。







从这个孩子的眼里,你看见什么?
我看见了悲痛,和一种没得选择的无奈。
他只是个孩子,但他所承受的痛,曾经去到一个依靠割腕牺牲性命来解脱的地步。
当你唾骂排挤他们的时候,你是多么的爽,多么的畅快!
但是或许你永远也没有想过,他们会为此了结自己。
你若不能接受,请保持沉默,不要加以霸凌。

你不杀伯仁,伯仁却会因为你而死。





Tuesday, August 2

杭州记2

来到杭州跑最多次的旅游胜地,应属西湖了。
西湖一共有十景,各自有各自的传说。周围都绿意怏然的,咖啡厅随处可见,像是一个超级大的花园。
个人认为濛濛细雨的西湖是最漂亮的,阴阴沉沉的天色,刮来一阵阵的寒风,好像处在人间天堂一样。
西湖唯一的缺点是人太多了,曾经试过在端午节出游(端午节是中国的法定假日),断桥上的人多到可以把桥压断似的。
















断桥上,风很大...

















桥上的人总是那么多...


阴暗天色下的西湖...
















从雷峰塔上眺望而下的西湖景色...


荷花池,可是荷花还未盛开...




















雨中撑伞逛苏堤,鞋子里头全是水...


我很喜欢的一张照片,觉得很有feel...呵呵

















重建的雷峰塔(之前是倒塌了的,里头剩下废墟),有点过于现代化,里头还有电梯。
















雨天的西湖...

Thursday, April 29

艾草

无意间接触这部《艾草》,是继《岁月神偷》后一部令我动容的电视电影。

这部片子改编自真人真事,主要讲述了一个母亲与一对子女在观念上的冲突,重点塑造了一个母亲逐渐包容子女、日益冲破束缚的坚强成长励志故事。


母亲吴艾草,成长在保守排外的某个闽南村落,年轻时为了跟大她20岁的外省籍教师谈恋爱,不顾老母亲反对,只身嫁到台北。38岁时丈夫去世,独自抚养一儿一女,时常照顾乡下的老母亲,一直耿耿于怀儿子的高龄未婚。艾草的儿子,宋海是个同志,念及他母亲而一直隐瞒自己内心最真实的一块。其实,知子莫若母的艾草早就知道儿子的性取向,只是基于传统的思想而把这个事实埋藏在心底。当留学法国的女儿带回了未婚所生的外孙女,冲突一触即发。

母亲由最初怒不可遏地排斥,到后来转变自己的人生观打开心结,慢慢接受了儿女们违背所谓社会传统道德的行为。母亲观念的转变过程体现了母爱的无垠,就算社会既定的框架屡屡被自己的儿女闯破,就算周遭亲朋认为那是多么不堪入目的行为,本着爱,艾草还是接受了。也许有人会觉得同性恋,未婚生子很荒谬,但是在妈妈的眼中,再荒谬的事情也敌不过儿女的平安幸福。
 
亲人之间的爱是最纯的,当中没有夹带任何杂质,而这一份爱,更不会被那无谓的社会框架所绑架。
也许今天你杀了人,但是父母不会因此而离开你,因为在他们眼中你仍然会是那个天真乖巧的孩子。
 
同性恋,未婚生子在传统的家庭里是个忌讳,出现了就会带来伤痛。
爱,却是抚平伤口最好的灵药。

Wednesday, April 28

岁月神偷



昨天带着期待的心情去看《岁月神偷》,果然没有让我失望。



吴君如和任达华是那么地以大儿子为傲,全家的寄托就放在大儿子身上,殊不知命运却跟他们夫妻俩开玩笑,把儿子硬生生地抢走。换血那一幕,吴君如摸着任达华的指环痕,悲伤地流下眼泪,是多么地揪心。为了孩子,不惜把婚戒当掉,可见父母的爱何其伟大。



还有一幕,当吴君如替招牌上漆的时候,说了一句《做人总要信》后就默默地流下眼泪。那一种不愿对命运屈服,却又无可奈何的感觉慢慢地把我的眼泪扯出来。吴君如本来就是会吸引我进戏院的喜剧演员,但这套电影里头,她没有浮夸的演技,有的是细腻的感情表现,徐徐地扣人心弦,撼动人心。



这一部电影让我看到小时候的自己,感觉自己就是身处在电影里,感触特别深。

Saturday, January 30

Become Everything You Are Capable of Becoming By Brian Tracy

The turning point in my life came when I discovered the law of cause and effect, the great law of the universe, and human destiny. I learned that everything happens for a reason. I discovered that success is not an accident. Failure is not an accident, either. I also discovered that people who are successful in any area usually are those who have learned the cause-and-effect relationship between what they want and how to get it.

Determine Your Personal Growth and Development Values

To realize your full potential for personal and professional growth and development, begin with your values as they apply to your own abilities. As you know, your values are expressed in your words and actions.

You can tell what your values are by looking at what you do and how you respond to the world around you. Your values are the root causes of your motivations and your behaviors.

Clarify Your Personal Growth and Development Vision

Create a long-term vision for yourself in the area of personal growth. Project forward five or ten years and imagine that you are developed fully in every important part of your life. Idealize and see yourself as outstanding in every respect. Refuse to compromise on your personal dreams.

"Relax and allow affirmations to go through your subconscious mind!"

According to whole brain research, you can learn subjects quite rapidly as a result of deep relaxation and music used in a systemized, organized process. Because of this, it is also possible for you to learn new belief systems using the same techniques.

Set Goals for Your Personal Growth and Development

Now take your vision and crystallize it into specific goals. Here is a good way to start. Take out a piece of paper and write down ten goals that you would like to achieve in the area of personal and professional development in the months and years ahead. Write in the present tense, exactly as if you were already the person you intend to be.

Determine exactly what you want to be able to do. Decide who you want to become. Describe exactly what you will look like when you become truly excellent in your field and in your personal life.

Upgrade Your Personal Knowledge and Skills

Set specific measures for each of your goals. If your goal is to excel in your field, determine how you will know when you have achieved it. Decide how you can measure your progress and evaluate your success.

Perhaps you can use as a measure the number of hours you study in your field each week. Perhaps you can measure the number of books you read or the number of audio programs you listen to. Perhaps you could measure your progress by the number of sales you make as the result of your growing skills.

Develop Winning Personal Growth and Development Habits

Select the specific habits and behaviors you will need to practice every day to become the person you want to become. These could be the habits of clarity, planning, thoroughness, studiousness, hard work, determination, and persistence.

Action Exercise

Decide today to develop yourself to the point where you can achieve every financial and personal goal you ever set and become everything you are capable of becoming. Write down your goals and make sure to look at them every day, then ponder ways you possibly achieve these goals.